The Healing Spirit
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the male psyche, there is a creature, an unwounded man, who believes in the
good, who has no doubts about life, who is not only wise but who also is not
afraid to die. Some would identify this
as a warrior self. But it is not that. It is a spirit self, and a young spirit at
that, one who regardless of being tormented, wounded, and exiled continues to
love, because it is in its own way self-healing and self-mending. Women
will testify to seeing this creature lurking in a man outside of his
awareness. This young spirit's ability
to bring the power of healing to bear on his own psyche is so awesome that it
is astounding. His trust is not
dependent on his lover not to hurt him.
His is a trust that any wound that comes to him can be healed, a trust
that new life follows old. A trust that
there is deeper meaning in all these things, that seemingly petty events are
not without meaning, that all things of one's life -- the ragged, the jagged, and
the lilting and the soaring -- all can be used as life's energy. - # - There
is probably nothing a woman wants more from a man than for him to dissolve his
projections and face his own wound. When
a man faces his wound, the tears come naturally, and his loyalties within and
without are made clearer and stronger.
He becomes his own healer; he is no longer lonely for the deeper
Self. He no longer applies to the woman
to be his analgesic. - # - There
is a saying, a prayer really, among the Sufis, asking God to break one's
heart: "Shatter my heart so a new
room can be created for a Limitless Love." Excerpted from "Women Who Run
With the Wolves" . |